Monday, January 05, 2009

The facts of life.

If you are anywhere near my age you probably remember a little show called "The Facts of Life." Lately I have been using one of my favorite things, my netflix account, to watch old episodes of the Facts of Life. It's been enlightening as I did not remember that so many deep issues were discussed on the show. I just watched the one where Blair found out there her grandfather, who she loved and admired, was a member of the Ku Klux Klan. It has really amazed me to find that this show that I thought was mindless and fun when I was little was actually teaching amazing lessons. I am enjoying my stroll down memory lane. I wish tv were this good still!

So, as a smooth transition, I have truly been learning the facts of life lately. There is a part of me that believes that I have never truly known what life was about until about 3-4 months ago. Anthony and I embarked on a new adventure pretty soon after we got married when we started discussing having a family. Anthony and I never really do anything without thinking, praying, and talking the heck out of things. We have really talked about our desires for a family, our ideals for raising that family, and how we will have the best marriage we can have through steps of growth and work.

As I made my 2009 "resolutions" I really thought about this goal and how powerful it is to have a good marriage these days. It's disturbing to see how many people take marriage so lightly and just want to have that day where they wear a big dress and look pretty just to have an ugly marriage. I have really made a concerted effort lately to connect fully with Anthony each day and I got to tell you, it has been so powerful. I have enjoyed every single minute of those connections no matter what we are doing. Last night we played quite a few games of Scene it and we had such a good time just being competitive and eating popcorn and discussing great movies that we both enjoy. The facts of life are these:

1. Being married is absolutely fantastic if you take the time to really connect with your spouse!

2. Being married is really hard work and requires actual awareness of what you are doing each day. It sounds lame but you have to think about what you are doing or you will forget to just BE in the marriage and forget about the meaningless details of life.

3. Loving your family is the most important thing in life and everything else is simply details and doesn't deserve the attention we usually give it. Yes, things are important like cleaning the house, doing well at your job, and being healthy in your body but being successful, healthy, and hygienic is only valuable when those you love are near and happy!

So to sum up this post..

sing it with me...

You take the good
You take the bad
You take them both
And there you have
The facts of life
The Facts of life

There's a time you gotta go
And show you're growing
Now you know about the
Facts of life
The Facts of life

When the world never seems
To be living
Up to your dreams
Suddenly your finding out
The facts of life are all about You

Have a lovely day everyone and I hope that you value your family above all else! :)

1 comment:

Toby and Terra said...

For the record, I LOVE THE FACTS OF LIFE!!!! and I still sing the theme song anyone says anything about having to just "take the bad" or something similar - haha!

I agree 100% that marriage is work on a daily basis, but I also agree that it's one of life's greatest blessings. I would be so lost without my awesome husband. It truly is about the marriage and not the big dress and fancy wedding (we were married at the local courthouse with a couple of clerks as or witnesses...nearly 11 years later we're still going strong!)